I hear this a lot. Today is one of THOSE days. But not one of THOSE days. Today is not a day I dread – because I woke up. My feet hit the ground, the sun is actually shining and I am already blessed. It’s not one of THOSE days where things go wrong. I don’t tend to have those, I refuse to believe in them.
No, this is one of those days where I move around a bit, looking at the things I have to do, get sidetracked by other things, do them, come back, look at what I had to do and then go do something else.
Instead of being cross with myself for wandering aimlessly between jobs, I just said out loud – “Oh, this is one of THOSE days”. I let myself off the hook. I kindly and compassionately told myself it’s OK. Those days come to help me be mindful. To breathe, to take things in my stride and to alert me to things that are happening around me. To be grateful that I get to do exactly this.
I’ve already been visited by the neighbour’s cat, a few squirrels and the sun – so this is a great day. Whenever the moving from one thing to another takes away my focus, I have decided today to let that be my focus. So I sat and wrote about it. I could have chosen to be frustrated because I wasn’t achieving anything today. Instead, I choose to take all the gifts presented to me and be mindful of them today. Because this is what I mean by being kind and compassionate to ourselves.
One of the joys of being funemployed is the learning. I have learned how to be a systemic team coach, I have learned how to assess people in a number of different ways via some cool psychometrics; I’ve read plenty of very cool books. (Thank you Dave Graham for the latest eye-opening, life changing one.)
Another joy is clearing out old shiz! I’m not a hoarder except when it comes to note books. Stuff with my musings, old work notebooks of lists and meeting notes; great ideas; every imaginable quote, model and teaching on leadership…
I found one today that I wanted to share. It started out as one of those notes to a younger self things which I would not normally do, but was prompted by a relative’s 21st birthday. The more I look at it and the more I talk about Leadership, the more I realise it is about humanity. Something on LinkedIn caught my eye yesterday, (because I have also been saying this for a while.) Excellent leadership is about being the best human we can be. We may have lost sight of that a little lately. So here is my manifesto.
- Be brave enough to truly know yourself. Be brave enough to ask yourself tough questions and really listen to the answers
- Love yourself. Love your imperfections. NO-ONE ELSE SEES THEM!
- Listen to the anger that goes on in you. Find out why
- Ask yourself what you want your legacy to be. How do you want to be remembered?
- Check-in with yourself: Am I happy, kind? Am I doing what I want? Am I being who I want to be? or am I just going along?
- Take time to BE and to explore and to do the things you love
- Be a contributor to family, friends, community, causes
- Challenge. Question. Say no. Say YES! Play. Have fun regardless of how old you are.
- Remember the little girl or boy in you, because they never leave you
- Be grateful and kind and gentle. There isn’t always a need to fight everything/everyone, or chase everything/everyone
- Be you! Listen to you. It doesn’t matter what you “DO” for a living, it matters what kind of soul you have
- Simplify the confusing stuff – break it down. Listen to your heart and your gut. Intuition is underrated
- Know you are beautiful. Know you are talented. Know you are unique and know you are loved for all that you are
- Don’t strive to make people happy at a cost to yourself. That’s not your job
- Feel ALL the feels. Emotional intelligence has more credence than intellectual intelligence
- Travel. Eat amazing food. Learn new things – music, another language. Be shocked. Be shocking! BREAK THE RULES
- Be whoever you truly are. Know who you truly are. Respect who you truly are
- Hold tight to the belief that you are wonderful
- Approach difference with curiosity
- Have empathy and compassion in your life. For everyone. All the time
There are many more I am sure, so if you have them and would like to add to the manifesto, I welcome your thoughts.
“I am the traveller, not the cartographer”. Nothing here is new, I didn’t make the map I’m just on the journey.